Grandma Used To Say……….

As we set on a school-like bench next to a coal stove with heavy eyes, roaring stomachs and much anticipation, grandma would finally dish for us a meal of homemade mille maize and spinach we had picked from the garden earlier on that day, and we would all gather around the big bowl where all the children ate together every single night, and we would all appreciate that the soil had provided yet again, just enough to get us through another day, we’d be so grateful, and then grandma would say grace, and as we all let go of each other’s hands she’d look at us all and say;
“With gratitude my children, thou shall feast now”.

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I Wish You Well

I wish on a shooting star,
I wish you are
All you want to be
I wish you are free.

I wish you health,
Happiness, love, wealth
I wish you worth.

I wish all your dreams come true
And they bring you the joy you hope they do
And you have loyal companions too
With best intentions at heart for you,
Like I do.

I wish you wealth
Diamond rings, platinum pearls, gold earrings,
I wish you health,
Oxygen, clean water as pure as your soul is to me,
And for the ground you walk on to worship you,
The birds to sing for you,
And the stars to shine for you.

I wish the starts to shine for you,
better yet, to shine through you.

I wish you life.
I wish you well.

Moving On From One Relationship To Another

When is the right time to move one to another relationship? Especially after breaking up with a long time partner; the answer is, whenever you feel ready. But, the tricky part is; feeling ready and being ready isn’t always the same thing; there are many false alarms in between.

Have you ever been in a relationship for so long that it ended up feeling like not a relationship? Like you guys were now siblings, except every now and then you’d roar like a lion and take her panties off using just your teeth, and you know you can’t do that to your real sibling, right?

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The thing about such relationships is; you often take for granted the effect they have on you since they’ve been around forever and the moment they come to an end you realize that “Bae” was more important than you had realized. Some couples develop certain languages, gestures, expressions, or inside jokes that only they understand, and having a joke so good that only “Bae” would understand and she’s no longer here to hear it can kill a man, and because of that you find yourself missing her so much, often the little things you took for granted, the simplest things, her giggle, her odd sense of humor or just the fresh smell of her panties.

Again, when is the right time to start dating again? And be fair to your new partner. In many cases, people subconsciously compare new “Bae” with ex-“Bae”, like “come on man, Ex cooked better, kissed better, and replied texts much quicker”, so much that you end up asking yourself this very dangerous question; Was that thing really worth breaking up over?
I have learned, in hindsight everything doesn’t really seem “that bad”, our minds are biased, they only remember what we want to remember, in other words, you will not remember the boiling kettle she threw at your genitals for liking another girl’s picture on Instagram, but you will remember the makeup sex you guys had afterwards.
But on a more serious note, comparing your previous relationship to your current one denies the current one a chance to thrive, because such judgments are never really objective.

The right time to move on is when you have truly made peace with the previous relationship and how it ended, when you wish nothing but happiness, health, wealth and many orgasms for your ex-partner (if there is such), and when your objectivity has been restored fully that you can enter a new relationship with no baggage from your old one, when you can truly travel light.

With that said, dear Ex, if I ever pitch up at midnight at your house reciting Drake’s lyrics, just know I’ve been at some dodgy club trying to pick up some dodgy women but failed because I’ve been with you forever and so my game is kind of outdated, and my righted hand with more biceps than the left one because I’ve been masturbating like crazy, and I talk nonstop because I’ve been having no one to talk to lately, and I’m drunk as hell begging you to take me back, please just offer me strong coffee, run me a bath and lay me down on your couch and I will wake up the next morning feeling terribly ashamed, apologize for my hysterics and do my walk of shame back home.
Thank you in advance.

In Time

Time is the most important possession to mankind, it presents infinite opportunities and possibilities, but, unfortunately its importance is never really appreciated in its abundance.
So, if you were to die today, would you be satisfied with the life you have lived so far?

Don’t ever let time pass you by. We often push our hopes, goals, dreams and even our happiness aside, because we think “my time is coming”, and overlooking the time that is already here, it matters too.

Be happy in the present moment, add value to it, let it matter, and count. Being happy is being grateful for the present moment, and even if you’re not driving the car you had hoped to drive by this day, just be grateful for the one you still do drive, drive it happily, and if you don’t drive at all, just be grateful for the feet you do have and take a walk.

The past is a delusion, so is the future. Never dwell on time you have already lost, you can never get it back, and never bite more than you can chew trying to make up for it, you’ll end up missing even the value of the present moment. Never spend too much time thinking about the future either, it will never be the present, and you’ll never truly live chasing the delusion of a happy tomorrow, because it will always be just a day away.

Do something, anything at all, give life and meaning in the present moment. It doesn’t even have to be building a rocket, writing a book or climbing a mountain, just read a book, smile at everyone you greet or take a walk, as long as you can truly appreciate what it entails, and let it enlighten you, lift up your spirit and get something from it, the present moment.
Dwelling on the future is harmful as dwelling in the past, because they both do not really exist.

Amen.