Be Happy

The best gift you can give yourself in life is happiness, you deserve it.
I had been unhappy for most of my life, although I already knew the potential in which I possessed I still managed to convince myself that happiness wasn’t for me, at least not in the present moment, well at least not until I make my first million.

Like most of us, I had also fooled myself into believing that happiness comes with being in possession of certain materialistic possessions nor the company of certain people, that happiness came from a house on the hills, a Porsche in its garage and the company of Marilyn Monroe, and I overlooked wiser men with five Porsches, five houses and a thousand Marylyn Monroe’s that still manage to cry themselves to sleep every single night, puzzled as to why it all isn’t what they had expected it to be.

It is all because we do not understand that happiness has nothing to do with your earnings, prestige or luxurious privileges, but it is in your heart, it is abundance. Being happy with R 200 in the very same way you would be with R 200 000 000 is a true recipe to happiness, finding satisfaction in your own company before seeking that of others and living life in your own comfortable pace, instead of “keeping up with the Jones”.
We all ultimately want to do better in life, but it is almost impossible to do better unless you start by acknowledging and appreciating the good you have already done so far, gratitude is King.

In conclusion, happiness is enjoying the simplest pleasures in life, and that is, good food, clean water, music, sunlight, and ultimately appreciating the present moment for the beauty it truly is and worrying less about the future. It is taking life one step at a time, living on your own terms and never passing on an opportunity to smile.

Be happy.

How Was Your Day?

My mission is to only speak when I have nothing nice to say, otherwise I just keep quite. I want to be remembered for the lives I touched, the hope and happiness I brought into peoples’ lives and not as that douchebag who said your belt wasn’t matching your shoes.

My mission is kindness, treating every moment and person I come in contact with like it’s my last, like this is all they had to remember me by.

I don’t postpone anything, especially not an opportunity to flash a smile at the next person.

Take a look at your day, just today. Did you live it right? Did you say all you needed to and listened to all other people had to say to you as well? Did you pick up the phone to remind someone out there someone is thinking of them? Did you seek forgiveness of those you have wronged? And more importantly, did you forgive those who have wronged you as well?
And finally, if you were to drop dead right at this very moment, would you be satisfied with the way you have lived your day? Not your whole life, just this day, today.

Moving On From One Relationship To Another

When is the right time to move one to another relationship? Especially after breaking up with a long time partner; the answer is, whenever you feel ready. But, the tricky part is; feeling ready and being ready isn’t always the same thing; there are many false alarms in between.

Have you ever been in a relationship for so long that it ended up feeling like not a relationship? Like you guys were now siblings, except every now and then you’d roar like a lion and take her panties off using just your teeth, and you know you can’t do that to your real sibling, right?

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The thing about such relationships is; you often take for granted the effect they have on you since they’ve been around forever and the moment they come to an end you realize that “Bae” was more important than you had realized. Some couples develop certain languages, gestures, expressions, or inside jokes that only they understand, and having a joke so good that only “Bae” would understand and she’s no longer here to hear it can kill a man, and because of that you find yourself missing her so much, often the little things you took for granted, the simplest things, her giggle, her odd sense of humor or just the fresh smell of her panties.

Again, when is the right time to start dating again? And be fair to your new partner. In many cases, people subconsciously compare new “Bae” with ex-“Bae”, like “come on man, Ex cooked better, kissed better, and replied texts much quicker”, so much that you end up asking yourself this very dangerous question; Was that thing really worth breaking up over?
I have learned, in hindsight everything doesn’t really seem “that bad”, our minds are biased, they only remember what we want to remember, in other words, you will not remember the boiling kettle she threw at your genitals for liking another girl’s picture on Instagram, but you will remember the makeup sex you guys had afterwards.
But on a more serious note, comparing your previous relationship to your current one denies the current one a chance to thrive, because such judgments are never really objective.

The right time to move on is when you have truly made peace with the previous relationship and how it ended, when you wish nothing but happiness, health, wealth and many orgasms for your ex-partner (if there is such), and when your objectivity has been restored fully that you can enter a new relationship with no baggage from your old one, when you can truly travel light.

With that said, dear Ex, if I ever pitch up at midnight at your house reciting Drake’s lyrics, just know I’ve been at some dodgy club trying to pick up some dodgy women but failed because I’ve been with you forever and so my game is kind of outdated, and my righted hand with more biceps than the left one because I’ve been masturbating like crazy, and I talk nonstop because I’ve been having no one to talk to lately, and I’m drunk as hell begging you to take me back, please just offer me strong coffee, run me a bath and lay me down on your couch and I will wake up the next morning feeling terribly ashamed, apologize for my hysterics and do my walk of shame back home.
Thank you in advance.