For a moment, let’s forget about handing a penny to a homeless person, creating soup schemes for kids at your neighborhood homeless shelter, giving out free tablets to primary school learners or awarding bursaries for high school graduates, let us just go back to the basics.
Funding an international plumbing company to install water pipes in Africa means nothing if you do not know the basics of kindness, and the gift of giving love; because it is far valuable than Mustangs and diamonds.
It is now that I realize the importance of being kind, I have recently started working for a Walmart shop and the cashiers are treating us (me and the other new guys) like trash.
Back to the basics, it is really hypocritical to smile at your preacher at church if you fail to smile at the person you work with every day.
Not that I really need much from them, but I just feel it’s standard workplace behavior to be welcoming to new staff so they can adapt quickly, experience a healthy working environment, and not be afraid to talk to you when they need something.
Kindness isn’t only giving out money or free food, but it is also about having the best intentions at heart, smiling genuinely, reaching out to others first and offering your services without even thinking twice whenever they are needed.
How much does that cost?
It has gotten to the point where some of my new colleagues are adopting this attitude as well. Today I heard someone saying “if you give me sh*t attitude I’ll give you that sh*t attitude back”, and it just sounded destructive to me, only kindness inspires kindness. Fighting fire with fire ends up burning everyone, burning bridges compromises mobilization, and being kind to an unkind person shows that that you genuinely have the best intentions at heart, and you are willing to go to all ends for this interaction to be as healthy as possible, and that will not kill you either.
Kindness doesn’t cost a thing.
I do not believe in mistakes and accidents, everything is how it was meant to be. Everything is for a specific reason, to serve a certain purpose, so learn what it means to teach you, for moaning it only result in relentless repetition in an attempt to get the lesson through, and so a bad moment can easily turn to a bad day, a bad week, a bad month, a bad year, and ultimately, a bad life.
I have just failed a job interview, not just anywhere but in Sandton (I always have been crazy about Sandton), in a marketing agency (although initially I had wanted PR but marketing was close enough) and I just couldn’t handle the loss, I wanted to self-destruct, and quit my retail job, head to Sandton to look for every and any PR agency I might find and hand in my CV in person.
After a couple of moments my right mind came back, and I realized I cannot just up and leave at a heated moment, destroy what I have because of what I have failed to get, that is failing twice, failing my future self simultaneously with my present one. Don’t get me wrong, I still think dropping CVs off in person is a good idea, but how I’m thinking of going about it isn’t, lack of preparedness always amount to failure. I should do research, be well informed about agencies I plan to approach as opposite to just googling their names and addresses.
Yes, failure does sting hard, but failing to accept failure is failure in its nature. Take it in, take a deep breath, get back up, and try again.
I have always chased happiness, but never have found it; maybe I’ve been sitting on it all along. I had seriously thought happiness is finding my dream job, dream car, house, girl, etc. but I was wrong, happiness is just a positive attitude. I can be happy today, with the right attitude of course. If I am happy it doesn’t always mean that I’m happy with where my life is, it just means that I am happy I woke up, healthy at that, I’m surrounded by love and I’ve had something to eat today, and then I need to apply that very same attitude towards changing my circumstances.
Failure humbles us, they say. Failure is meant to teach us something, never fail to win and then again fail to learn what a loss is meant to tech you.